Dating Advice: 5 New Year's Resolutions for Christian Singles

Was 2018 a bad relationship year for you?

Maybe you had a promising relationship fall apart. Maybe you were in a relationship that pulled you away from God. Maybe you had trouble finding anyone you wanted to date. 

There's an old saying... if you keep doing what you've always been doing, you'll keep getting what you've always got.

If you're ready to make some changes that will help you find true love, consider...

5 New Year's Resolutions for Christian Singles

1) Put God First

One of the biggest traps singles fall into is making love an idol. Nobody ever calls it that, but there are plenty of people who live as though finding "Mr. Right" or "Mrs. Right" is the most important thing in their life. No human being can fill the need we have inside for unconditional love, acceptance, fulfillment and intimacy that only God can provide. 

2) Trust God’s Plan

Single Christians often get impatient and frustrated with God.  “Why does it seem like all my friends are dating or married but I’m not?”  “Why don’t the guys or girls I’m interested in want to go out with me?”  “What’s wrong with me?” “Why isn’t God doing anything about this?”

Remember God loves you and he’s got a great plan for your life.  Perhaps he wants to grow your faith in a way He can only do while you’re single.  Perhaps you’ve made love an idol and He wants you to give that up first.  Perhaps he is preparing the heart of your future spouse.  There are many possibilities.

3) Only Date Other Followers of Jesus

As a Christian you are on a journey following Jesus.  When you marry someone, you commit to traveling the journey of life together.  If you marry someone who is not following Jesus, it is going to put a strain on your relationship with your spouse and your relationship with God, because your spouse and your God will be pulling you in two different directions.  The best way to prevent this is to only date other Christian Singles.

You may think, “What’s the big deal with dating an unbeliever? It’s just a date.”  Sure, there’s nothing wrong with going on a date with anyone who is single. But what are you hoping comes out of that date? A strong connection? A second date? If you are dating for marriage, your spiritual beliefs and values should be something you discuss on or before your first date before you start to develop feelings for someone.

4) Don’t Compromise Your Values

Many singles today expect sex on the first or second date.  As a result, many singles - even many Christian singles - feel like if they don’t have sex on the first or second date, the other person will dump them.

God’s word is clear – sex is to be reserved for marriage.  When you start dating someone, it’s important to tell them fairly early in the relationship that you want to honor God in the relationship by being intimate with anyone until marriage (even if you have fallen short of that in the past).

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