Date 02-24-2019 |
Before officially becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, the woman who is now my wife and I dated for six months. Yes, I know that some of you are thinking we’re crazy. How many Christian singles wait six months just to “go steady”? Well, the reason we waited so long was that we were dating for marriage, and we believed doing so was the best thing for us as people serious about loving Jesus.
Okay, so I’ll be honest. You should really be thinking that I’m the crazy one because my wife would have taken things to the next level much sooner than I did (you could say I was a little scared of commitment). I had never previously ever thought about dating for marriage.
But, still, the biggest reason why it took so long for us to make things “official” is because I really wanted to make sure this woman was someone I was willing to marry. Was she indeed in love with Jesus? Was she the kind of woman I would want to be a mother to my kids? Did she and I have a shared vision for what marriage should look like? These were all questions I was asking from the first date until the moment I decided I was going to marry her.
For some Christian singles, this might seem a little ridiculous, but it really isn’t. If you are genuinely pursuing Jesus and a marriage that brings Him glory, then marriage should be a huge deal to you, and it should mean a lot more to you than the way you feel about another person.
In addition to loving someone, marriage is about being in a covenant relationship with them that seeks to glorify God through the way the two people become one flesh, raise their children, and treat one another within their marriage.
Simply put, why would you waste your time with someone you know you can’t have a Holy Spirit filled type of relationship with?
Dating casually and not for marriage puts you and your partner at risk of getting your hearts broken and compromising your purity for your future spouses. I say this as someone who has had his heart broken because I was involved in a long-term relationship whereby marriage wasn’t even a thought. Knowing what it’s like to have a wife who has kissed no other man besides myself. Having a wife who honored me and kept herself pure for me, even before she knew who I was, is a blessing beyond explanation.
So, Christian singles should only be dating exclusively for marriage. If you don’t, then the longer you are in a relationship that doesn’t have Godly marriage in mind the more likely you are to compromise your purity. It also means someone is more likely to get seriously hurt because the two people in the relationship do not share a common goal of marriage. With that in mind, what do you think? Is it time for all serious-minded Christians to start dating for marriage?
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