How to Determine If another Christian Is Good For You

Our main aim as Christians is to please God. Relationships that we enter into as Christian Singles should be the type that honors Him rather than our fleshly nature. However, when it comes to dating, many of us tend to have some doubts if we are with the right person or not. While it is not not biblical to have a friendly association during the discovery period while getting to know someone you're interested in dating, it would be unwise to move forward in that relationship when confirmation is revealed to you by that still small voice that the relationship is unequally yoked. However, how do Christian Singles determine whether or not God wants them to date a particular person?  While finding that out may seem to be challenging, it is possible to know for sure. Here are some things that will help you to understand if another Christian is good for you.

1. Encourages You In Christ

What differentiates Godly relationships from worldly dating is Jesus. You definitely should make Christ the center of your relationship. The perfect spirit mate will inspire you to know God more and live your life in a way that pleases Him. By pointing each other back to Jesus, you will help yourselves to be proactive against sin and hence pleasing God. However, when a relationship is not Christ Centered, or Scripture focused, the temptation for both of you to backslide and fall into temptations is inevitable. A partner you can comfortably study the Bible together with and pray with is the right person for you as a Christian.

2. Takes Care of Themselves

The Bible in the book of 1 Corinthians 3:16 reminds us that our bodies are the temple of God. However, how can God dwell in a place that is not clean spiritually? The first step towards honoring God is to be renewed spiritually, which is essential for one to become a born again believer. It is of the essence for Christian Singles, especially those dating for marriage, to be with someone who values and takes care of themselves from the inside out. It will be hard for someone to be concerned about another if they are not concerned with themselves first.

3. Willing to Seek Advice

People learn from their mistakes, also from the mistakes of other people. The right partner is one who is willing to seek advice from other people who have been there and done that before. Dating for marriage is not a smooth ride, and while many people think that they can make it on their own, it is crucial that you seek some guidance. Find someone who is willing to be a mentor or act as a relational/spiritual counselor which will save you from many headaches in the future.

4. Is Selfless

One thing that Christian Singles and all believers should learn from Jesus is how to be selfless. Many people tend to put themselves first, which should not be the case. You and your spirit mate should make a concerted effort to consider the needs of your significant other before yourself.  It is essential that we practice selflessness in our relationships as often as possible.

5. Believes the Best about You

This can be tricky. Most of the time, it is easy for someone to jump to conclusions than to think the best about people. Many relationships fail because people choose to believe the worst in people rather than nurture the good in them. As a Christian, dating can be fun, but it should be marriage focused as well. Moreover, one of the ways you and your partner can end up marrying each other is if you choose to believe the best about one another. The Bible tells us that among other things, love never loses faith, so find someone who will always have faith in you.

6. Do not Look For Perfection

There is no such thing as perfect relationships. Christian couples who are imperfect marry every day, yet they agree to disagree periodically. One fact that can help a Christian relationship endure is the desire to trust and believe that God, through Jesus Christ by way of His Spirit can and will sustain you through all of life's ups and downs. As a single Christian man or woman, you should always seek someone that's equally yoked in the Lord and who has an active fellowship/relationship with Father God.

Dating is not supposed to isolate us from other Christians in our lives or from God. It is unfortunate that the closer many people are to their significant other, the further they tend to drift from other meaningful relationships. So let us be wise and choose our future spouses wisely based on biblical scriptures. We should desire God even in our relationships and devote our minds to knowing Him more.

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