Date 04-08-2019 |
One of the biggest struggles facing true Christians today is finding other believers who are also seeking a virtuous marriage. It's all too easy for Christian singles to fall for the allure of people who are charismatic and attractive, but who are not believers in Jesus Christ.
Fortunately for Christian singles who are committed to dating for marriage, there is a solution: the 1, 2, Test & See Principle. Foreverwelove.com developed this strategy to help Christians determine whether a potential date is genuinely compatible. By using the 1, 2, Test & See approach, you'll be able to screen out non-believers to help make sure that you're dating for marriage in a way that glorifies God and His plan for us. Let's take a look at what the process entails.
Step 1: Test the person to ensure that they are not unequally yoked.
1 John 4:1 says, "Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world." As true believers, we are instructed to test others to determine whether they are true believers who are dedicated to upholding God's edicts for mankind. Countless people may seem harmless on the surface, but who are actually pushing an ungodly, unjust and secular agenda. To have a blessed marriage in the eyes of God, you must test your potential spouse to learn where their allegiance lies.
This testing can take many forms. When you're first talking to someone new, think about questions you can ask that will illuminate the depth of their commitment to Christ. You might ask them about their experiences with the church, Bible verses that speak to them, what their thoughts on marriage and children are, and how they view different social issues like homosexuality and divorce. By asking these questions from the start, you'll be able to ascertain whether the person you're testing is suitably committed to God. Knowing this upfront means, you can disengage from the relationship if they are not a true believer and don't have compatible beliefs and values. Save yourself the trouble and emotional turmoil by testing your potential spouse from the start.
Step 2: Ensure that they practice abstinence before marriage.
Some self-professed Christians have fallen prey to modern pressures to have sex before marriage and engage in casual hookups. That attitude and behavior are completely incompatible with dating for marriage, and it's vital that you talk openly with the person you will date to determine what their stance is.
2 Corinthians 6:14 says, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has the light with darkness?"
How can you expect to be equally yoked with someone who lacks the self-control and discipline to abstain from pre-marital sex? How can a marriage be founded on an absence of commitment to God's decrees ever be successful?
Christian singles should be dating for marriage, and that means knowing that the other person is on the same page as you when it comes to abstinence. And don't forget—abstaining from sex before marriage doesn't just mean foregoing the physical act. Mature Christians should also try to avoid any sexual conversations that might lead to them compromising their morality. It's all too easy for sexual discussions to lead to further corruption and deviation from God's plan, so Christian singles should remain steadfast in their commitment to abstinence from anything above a PG rating.
Test & See
Once you've completed the first two steps, then it's just a matter of continuing to check in with yourself and your significant other to ensure that the relationship is being conducted in a Godly fashion. After all, in Hebrews 13:4 it says, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous." Christian singles must remember at all times that their relationship exists to bring glory to God and to act as a vessel to fulfill his plans for the world. If a marriage is to be genuinely blessed, both partners must be wholeheartedly committed to living their lives in a virtuous way. Once a potential date or spouse has passed steps one and two, the wait and see part of this strategy will give you the chance to ultimately confirm that they are a true believer and are meant to be your partner in Christ.
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